#1 Not responding to texts right away means they are no longer interested in you or something went horribly wrong.
When we don’t get texts back in a quick manner, our mind starts to race and we assume the worst. We start to play things back and wonder where the holes were, especially if this person is someone you recently met. Then, of course, you find out the truth: They were in a meeting. They were swamped at work. They forgot their phone. Their ringer was off. And the panic subsides until you send them a text and they don’t respond in your expected time window or their response time has changed, and you spiral downward once again. So what do you do when you notice a slight delay or change in tone? Don’t jump to conclusions until you get all the information back. Most likely, you’re pulling from your own insecurities or comparing this person’s response time to others in your past. Be patient. You will know. The truth will eventually float to the top.
#2 If they don’t try to kiss you on the first date, it means they’re not into you.
There are so many reasons why a kiss doesn’t surface on the first date that has nothing to do with you or the chemistry. They may want to kiss you but the timing may be off or the activity doesn’t allow for that moment. So don’t put so much weight on when the kiss lands. It’s not about when it comes. It’s about how it feels.
#3 If they don’t show public affection, it means they’re embarrassed of you.
Many people just aren’t comfortable showing affection in public. It’s not their style. Or maybe it’s a cultural thing. The bottom line is everyone has their own comfort levels when it comes to public affection. And it may not be tied to how they feel about you.
#4 Not wanting to discuss an issue at the time you want means they don’t care.
It was the fuel of many unwarranted fights. Many avoid conflict. Not because they want to but maybe they don’t have the tools or it’s how they’re wired due to upbringing. They may not be used to expressing themselves. Usually, people who fall into this category just need some time. They need to think about their thoughts so they’re responding and not reacting. If someone isn’t ready to talk about an issue when you are, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. That being said, they do have to eventually come back to the issue to discuss or they’re avoiding.
#5 If they don’t feel like having sex, it means they are not attracted to you anymore.
Not everyone wants to have sex all the time. We have long days that leave us mentally and physically exhausted. We have issues with our bodies. We have anxiety. We get headaches. So many of us instantly internalize when our partner shies away from our sexual advances. Usually, the first thing we believe is that it’s us. They’re not attracted to us anymore. They don’t want to be with us. Or there’s something wrong with the relationship. They’re mad at us. They’re holding onto something. Find out what the real reason is and don’t make a big deal out of it if it’s not a big deal. Just not being in the mood is enough. Because one day, you won’t be feeling like having sex when your partner wants. You’ll be consumed with life shit or maybe you won’t be feeling good about your body and you will hope your partner understands and doesn’t make it about him or her.